You’ve been invited to a Dungeons & Dragons campaign—whether you’re a forever DM, you grew up playing, you watch streams, you’re a nervous newbie, or you have to look up the name. As you begin, the host asks: What kind of character arc do you want to play?

In this blog post, Sierra talks about how we let others control our lives and how she is learning to take charge of her own life.

I needed people who would challenge me to be brave because I had never felt truly daring before I met them.

I want people to see that there are avenues for them to feel themselves and people will want to hear what they want to say.

Sometimes we’re not ready and we’ll bolt out of the room, but what if you stay? What if it works out? What if you find people who get you?